Sincerely, One of Many Girls Who Care

Are you a boy?

I’m sorry.

Not sorry that you’re a boy… That’s awesome.

I’m sorry that you see hundreds of advertisements every week showing half-dressed women.

I’m sorry every time you go to the beach or your neighborhood pool you can’t look in any direction without seeing a girl basically in her underwear.

Or that you can’t scroll through Instagram on “women crush wednesdays” or any day for that matter without an airbrushed girl in a thong staring you down.

Or that your buddy showed you that one magazine when you were 9 and you’ve never forgotten that moment because that was the first time you first saw a completely naked woman.

When I think about the guys in my life who are striving to live with a pure and Godly mindset, it honestly breaks my heart that they’re surrounded with so much temptation.

I think about my 22 year old brother, David, and the fight he is fighting every day for his future wife.

I think about the middle school boys in my youth group who don’t seem to have a clue how destructive this lustful lifestyle they are checking out is.

But most of all, I think about the man I’m going to marry.

Not only are you surrounded with a world that’s obsessed with worthless, cheap sex and relationships that mean nothing outside of sexual appeal, you’re encouraged to take part in seeing women as only objects of sex and instant pleasure. All the sports reporters are drop dead gorgeous. All the news anchors. Any girl that’s used for any kind of advertising. I wouldn’t be surprised if its all you can think about.

Its like every guy judges you based off of how hot your girlfriend is.

And maybe you’re so consumed with trying to be a “man” that you’d put up with the most annoying, possessive, selfish girl if she was really hot. Because that’s all that really matters right?

Or maybe you’re not putting up with a girl right now who really isn’t annoying, possessive, and selfish. Maybe you’re with a really sweet and pretty girl but you know deep down inside, if you’re honest, she’s not striving after God nearly the way she’s striving after youYou can’t fulfill the role of God for her. That’s just not fair for you and definitely not healthy for her.

And I haven’t even tapped into pornography. 

Porn. The fantasy world where men’s desires are cast as first and foremost the most important thing in the whole world. And where women are cast as objects of sex and instant pleasure in order to fulfill that need at anytime, in any way, with any women you could dream of. An industry where both women and men are lied to about their health safety, and usually take drugs to suppress the emotional trauma that happens on set. Where over 121 porn stars have died from aids, suicide, homicide, drugs, and premature death since 2007. [1]

Porn. What 50% of men and 20% of women IN THE CHURCH look at regularly. [1]

Where according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 58% of divorces were a result of a spouse looking at excessive amounts of pornography online in 2003. [1]

Porn. The industry that makes over $97 billion revenue worldwide, $13 billion in the U.S. alone.[2]

…which is more than the revenues of the top technology companies combined: Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo!, Apple, Netflix, and Earthlink[2]


…which is more than NFL, NBA, and MLB’s revenues in 2012 combined.[3]

Pornography destroys. It becomes an addiction and distorts the way you see your sisters in christ, and eventually your wife.

But enough with the pity party I’ve managed to throw for you.

ENOUGH to all the lies thrown your way about how you CAN’T be good enough for a Godly girl or more importantly, God’s grace.

ENOUGH to allowing the pornography industries treating your temptations and natural desires as a way to lavish themselves in money.

ENOUGH to the petty girl who you have been beating yourself up for.

Don’t you think you’d want to wait for a girl who will encourage you on your walk with God? Who will work in protecting your purity? Who will Respect you and encourage you to follow your dreams? Who will see you as redeemed? Who will be by your side during the good AND bad?


Too often, it is girls who are told not to settle for a guy. But guys, the same thing goes for you. Don’t waste your time and emotions on a girl who really could care less about you and just wants you for what you will do for her. You too deserve someone who will see you as amazing and treat you accordingly.

Do not conform. God’s will is good and acceptable and perfect.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2

Keep God’s words and treasure his commandments to withstand her temptation.

My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandments with you; keep my commandments and live; keep my teaching as the apple of your eye; bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart. Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” and call insight your intimate friend, to keep you from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words. Proverbs 7:1-27

God will provide a way to escape.

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. 1 corinthians 10:13

Sin will have no dominion over you.

So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus. Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, to make you obey its passions. Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments for righteousness. For sin will have no dominion over you, since you are not under law but under grace. Romans 6:11-14

Don’t let any mistakes in your past discourage you from believing you can start clean. Choose to leave a life of lust behind and start today if you haven’t. You are going to be blessed beyond words and avoid so much heart break.

All things will work together for your good

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.Romans 8:28

He will give you the desires of your heart

Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

You’ll be Blessed.

.. And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, if you obey the voice of the Lord your God. Blessed shall you be in the city, and blessed shall you be in the field. Blessed shall be the fruit of your womb and the fruit of your ground and the fruit of your cattle, the increase of your herds and the young of your flock. Blessed shall be your basket and your kneading bowl.Deuteronomy 28:1-68

MEN STRIVING FOR PURITY: May I just say how proud I, and so many other girls, are of you?

Thank you. You are truly a light in this dark world. A protector of women, and a buckler for your future family. Thank you for loving your sisters in Christ the way the Jesus would. And for treating us with respect. It is men like you who make us want to be better women in God. It is so easy to settle for someone who is not a strong christian because we forget that there are guys like you who truly see us as precious and worthy of your respect. Please be encouraged. Keep fighting. We need you.

 

Sincerely, one of many girls who really do care.

Sources:

[1]-https://www.shelleylubben.com/stats

[2]-http://www.familysafemedia.com/pornography_statistics.html

[3]http://www.plunkettresearch.com/sports-recreation-leisure-market-research/industry-statistics

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  3. Reblogged this on I wanna live like that and commented:
    Please share with all the men in your life! This is an incredible take on purity that needs to be used to encourage and strengthen the men in our lives!

    But guys, the same thing goes for you. Don’t waste your time and emotions on a girl who really could care less about you and just wants you for what you will do for her. You too deserve someone who will see you as amazing and treat you accordingly.

  4. Anna, thank you. Seriously. I’m so thankful to have been directed to your blog. I’m the mom of three boys, two teenagers, both of which will benefit greatly from this article. I pray (really!!!) that God has truly given you the wisdom to “get” what a talented and gifted writer you are. Your love for Him speaks loud and clear; you are a Christ follower and your courage, boldness, and encouragement are inspiring. I can only imagine how many messages you receive a day, but I pray you read this comment and know that you have impacted the heart of a mom that lives in fear of what this addiction can do to a man. May God bless you and keep you close by his side; may He protect from those who refuse to accept the Truth. Praying for you daily…..

  5. Thank you Anna. As a man who has struggled with porn for many years, this is extremely encouraging to keep fighting. Thank you for believing in the common man who wants purity. I sometimes come back and read this blog just find strength and remember what I’m fighting for…

    1. So she made a mistake… She isn’t perfect, and neither are we…which is probably why we read this article. God forgives our typos and our sexual sins.

  6. Grant, was your comment posted December 23, 2015 at 7:58AM referring to my comment about porn? If so I thank you. However, for reason such a question is not meant to put self before God; ask forgiveness. That is a difficult choice I hope to recover from, but effort to find an assistant. Who will attend an exercise facility with me, for the purpose to pick up weights I drop; as a result of flexed-poor grip? Is just, as difficult when the need-to ask, for help most are not comfortable asking, nor providing.

  7. This is a beautiful tribute to purity, and the struggles we face over lust in the world today. I love the heart that you have for those struggling to remain pure in a society saturated in sex. Your references to porn or particularly relevant and well placed. God bless you!

  8. I sincerely apologize, for use of exact label-word in my last comment. However, when Matthew 5:5 – Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.

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  11. I think you have a strong point here. Every person can live a Godly life and every person can be forgiven… Every man or woman can choose to become a stronger person and live by God and his commandments. I am not a person to quickly judge someone but when it comes to a matter like this world has bc of factors such as this then yes i will be very quick to judge. Bc its not right and i will speak on behalf of those who are to afraid to. And if I’m being honest I absolutely can not stand Pornography. I attend church and i believe it is an abomination of God… Read the bible where it talks about sin and pornography and where it talks about how God forbids it and how it destroys the lives of families and couples.. It is everywhere and for some reason it doesn’t matter how hard you try to avoid it from your homes, and children, and even yourself; it always seems to be just around the corner. I think it is SICK and selfish of every porn star out there. Because, these porn stars are not thinking about the fact that it destroys peoples lives and it rips a couple apart, or even the fact that they can get diseases or regret the fact that there private parts are plastered all over the internet…. They only think about how they wanted to make “good money.” I have always said that I would write up a petition to have people sign to destroy any pornography related thing in the world. To see how many people would agree with me and want it gone and to show these “Stars” and others what people actually think about this garbage. And that is exactly what it is! GARBAGE and it needs disposed of.

    I personally have a issue with it BC it seems as though my husband is not addicted to it so to say but he still looks at it. And believe me it eats me alive. I break down and I can’t even stand the sight of him due to the fact that he is choosing the life of sin bc some sleezy woman or man has their private parts exposed everywhere. Because it is sinning and we attend church. We are Christians. therefore he is throwing it up in Gods face as to it does not matter to him. Well it does because my husband will pay for it one day. So will all the others. And god will not take a light punishment on it either. Watch and see.

    And it makes me feel as if I’m not good enough for him and he does not like my body and he wants that “perfect body” that every magazine or video or picture or what have it may be has. Which come on everyone 99.99% of all that junk is edited and photo shopped. I have had two beautiful children and I have some stratch marks, though I only weigh 100 lbs I still have some marks left behind. So those woman dont naturally look like that. Half those men don’t either.

    And I feel insecure about myself because I feel that if I looked like one of those girls then maybe he would want me and he would not disrespect me as a woman and as his wife. The one that he is supposed to love and only have eye contact with. I feel like he does and treats me like I’m a nobody. And time after time again I sit and wonder to myself, “what is so wrong with my body and what is so right about hers that she is better than me?” Should I have to sit and ask myself that?! Well of course not but this garbage is controlling everyone and everything so everyday I have to continue to put myself into this position. All because these men and woman committing a hateful and destroying sin are more caring about themselves and making money than a family, or a couple, or a child, or what have you.

    So I end on this note…. People can do whatever they please to do. But I encourage people to think about the feelings and lives of others before they take the next steps. I know that if that was me I would never do it even if somebody offered me the most money in the world. Because I don’t give a flip about money and I don’t enjoy watching lives being destroyed over issues like this. So I would take matters into my own hands and I would find a way to destroy it ALL!!!! So for all of those woman out there who are hiding all this anger in and it is destroying your life like it is mine then I encourage you to speak your mind and tell these people what you really want them to know. BC I did for so many years and it just destroys me even more and more. It’s okay to tell people how you feel. Obviously they don’t care but it will make you feel better in the long run and maybe get them thinking about others!

    1. Ashley, I totally resonate with your anger, but decrying porn won’t eliminate the lie about the human body in our minds and on our lips that causes porn to flourish. Please, read my comment from January 24 which critiques that deceptive element assented to in this article.

      Help for your husband will never come from religiously strengthening the lie that sustains porn addiction. Nor will children raised in this culture be helped merely by telling them how bad porn is. With God’s truth we must dismantle the time-bomb we’ve allowed to be planted in their young minds. It’s set to explode in adolescence and will make pornography an inevitable temptation.

      Because Christians generally treat this lie as sacred, I believe God has allowed secular voices to be raised up to target the real problem. However, some other pastors and I created an anti-porn website (www.mychainsaregone.org) that also targets the root of the porn problem with a firm trust in Christ’s promise in John 8:32, “And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” Check it out. It’s very woman-friendly, and for that reason, it’s a lethal weapon against the woman-unfriendly portrayals of pornography.

    2. I want you to know that your husband’s addictions or desires have nothing to do with you. You cannot allow yourself to be responsible for his sin. He made that choice, almost certainly without even thinking about you or your performance. People who have problems with porn addictions have those problems because their selfish desires aren’t being met. Usually it is more of a time issue. Regardless of why he made that choice he made it. Regardless of how much of your INFINATE value your husband sees, God was willing to die for you.

    3. “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives,” 1 Peter 3:1
      This is your call.
      Praying for you, dear sister.

  12. I refuse to think men are that stupid. If they are that easily led than that is the fault of their parents and teachers for refusing to teach them better. I understand that the average human is quite malleable since the brain can only perceive part of every situation, the average IQ is 100, and 67% of the average person’s beliefs are false. That has more to do with people blaming things on other people or entities. I am glad my son will not be raised being told he is not responsible for his own actions. It is a shame that many people would rather delude themselves instead of learning from their own flaws; it is quite easy for us to be lawyers for ourselves and judges of others. This type of attitude is nowhere near godly. Please stop misrepresenting God.

    1. It’s quite ironic that you talk about people blaming things on other people or entities while you’re blaming the parents and teachers of boys for “refusing to teach them better”. These parents and teachers grew up in a time where purity was more easily achievable than it is now, they know not better.
      About you refusing to think that men are “that stupid”: It’s not about stupidity. If anything, your comment here was filled with stupidity. You clearly have no idea what girls or women, in any situation whatsoever, can change in a boy’s mind.
      “Learning from their own flaws”, in this context, is an impossible task. They need God to help them, they need other people to help them, they can’t get out of this alone.
      I appreciate your effort of defending Godliness, but this is an earthly problem. Being lawyers for ourselves will be much needed, as we are not perfect like Christ. I get why you think that boys who struggle with purity are “nowhere near Godly”, and some are, perhaps, but I know for a fact that most of these boys/men are doing just as much effort for being Godly as you are.

  13. Reblogged this on Before You Can Lead and commented:
    I know I read this over a year ago, but a year later, it really is incredibly encouraging to reread these words. Purity is difficult to fight for, particularly in your own heart. It’s definitely encouraging to know that there are women (and other men) who understand that there is a real struggle among brothers to keep their minds pure. I want to keep fighting for purity as well.

  14. Thank you for your encouraging words! This is a good reminder for all men. Thank you for being so Godly and encouraging, and for taking the time to think deeply on these topics and respond in a truthful and loving way.

    I wish more blog posts were like this in the Christian blogosphere. This is the kind of iron on iron sharpening God’s kingdom needs.

  15. Great article – As to the literary critics – Hey this isn’t scripture so of coarse you can find some thing to criticize in it – Her point over all is really good though , the spirit in which she writes it is to build up n edify men of any any age , Good Job Sis !

  16. Thank you so much for this amazing, uplifting, inspiring, even life-changing article. It’s easy to forget at times of darkness that the sisters have our backs. Not because of anything they have done wrong but because of the deceptive nature of Satan. This has renewed my vigour to become worthy a serve a mission and to do so ASAP. There us a scripture in DC that says that even if you bring one soul unto me, how great shall be your joy. I think you have done very much with putting tour heart into this and shall be rewarded. ~Michael P. Cook

    1. I to like many men have fallen, even now regrettably but I thank God for men and women alike fighting for the rightful cause. That cause not only being purity, but the shear image of Jesus Christ Lord and savior of the world. This article from your heart opens hearts and brings those lost closer to Christ including those who have not read it or may not even believe. But I tell you the truth that it is by God’s grace that we were not only saved but in the light of believing that Jesus Christ died and on the third day rise again. Christ is the image of purity, and I thank God for the example He gave us but loved us, truly love us. I pray that when we go and make disciples in Christ, that we do not lower the sacrifice to the human standards constantly change depending on who you ask. But stick to God’s standards, the rock! Our foundation which we build our faith upon. Jesus Christ is our loving savior and beckoning us to come and follow. Let us go humbly and honorably, serve Jesus Christ as true brothers and sisters in Christ, in LOVE!

  17. Why are men being apologized to? I see where this article is right, and where it went wrong. I don’t understand why she is stating “I’m sorry” to all men. Obviously, they are responsible for their own thoughts, and that has been established. However, with entities such as pornography (which women enjoy, too by the way), people usually look at pornography because they are going through something in life. If it occurs during a marriage, then the marriage was not happy if porn was on their minds, whether it’s coping with bills, infertility, or just the wrong partner, etc… There is an inherent need for resources for couples going through this if this 58% claim is true, although true irony hits when religious ideals morph sin into something taboo. No one or couple will be too keen on discussing these topics because of expectations and harsh perfectionism. People are too proud or embarassed because such a popular temptation is hard to speak about! Sex and wanting sex are entities just as natural as breathing or dying to anything living, and yet it’s taboo for religious peoples. This sucks. A lot. Therefore, why should men be apologized to when they are the ones who give into temptation as well as women? This is like saying, “Oh, I’m sorry I have to put you through this pleasurable experience. Don’t be tempted.” vs. to women saying “Oh, women, practically become a walking skeleton to be accepted by all of society–which is made up of both men and women.” You’re downplaying the latter by far. Ugh. And when you say to ignore the pretty girls who are sweet and kind, but not religious? Yeah, that’s totaly Christian of you. Turn away those who need our help most, so much that they don’t even take a second glance at a life of righteousness. Rejecting women who already feel insecure about themselves is not the way to go about it. Plus, why can’t I embrace my own body, feel sexy, have my man feel sexy because he has me AS WELL AS all the other qualities of intelligence and essentially having my crap together in one package? I have my body, don’t judge me for what I choose to do with it. Be kind, not judgemental. Don’t abandon me when I need your help most in figuring out my insecurities and reasons of strength, because if you’re Christian enough you’ll know that everyone is worth saving if you get to know them.

  18. I want to thank you for what you said. I havent read the comments, because i know people will choose to critize anything right. I have been addicted to drugs, sex, and pornography for a long time, and just in the past year i decided to change. Somehow, i got approval from the first presidency to go on a mission. But being a college student, having had to get rid of all my friends, and give up my entire life for God, sometimes it gets hard and discouraging. It really helps to know that people really do appreciate it, and especially that there are woman that appreciate it. Thank you

    1. Continue on your path to a mission, I struggle with many of the same things. The friends you had to give up weren’t worth your attention if they will not support who you are meant to be, you will see this as you strive for your eternal family.

  19. This a awesome article, do I believe that it is 100% women’s fault not at all but it does play a key role in causing a man to sin .

    Try shoving alcohol in a man or womens face who is trying to be pure from alcohol, if you sit there and badger them eventually being human the walls will tumble down .

    It talks about in 1st cor 18:13

    If the food I eat causing my brother to sin I shall never eat meat again .

    Or 1st cor 8:9 do not be a stumbling block for the weak.

    Though ultimately it is a mans choice to give into sin or lust, it is also a equal sin to women who give in and flaunt there body’s perversely.

    I think I made my point .

    Coming from a kid who’s struggled far to long

  20. Reblogged this on Life of a Country Girl and commented:
    This is so good! In one of my college classes, we just talked about this. Pornography is a dangerous drug that has the same affect on your mind as cocaine and other drugs. It is something that we all need to be aware of to try to help those around us come unto Christ and leave all that nasty stuff behind.

  21. I think folks are over analyzing. I appreciate this article more than anyone can imagine, because it sympathizes with the mindset that boys are raised to have. Girls are not sex objects. Neither are men. We are all the children of God, and what matters the most about us is our spirit, not our bodies. Out bodies are important(and we should strive to look good and take care of them), but all too many young men, including myself, struggle to resist pornography and lusting because it caters to our natural instincts. We aren’t animals, however, and God never intended sexual appeal to be as COMMON AS IT IS TODAY. The world used to have morals, and it doesn’t anymore. That’s what happens when secularism and godlessness takes over. Good morals are abandoned over time….and it’s sad. We aren’t animals. We need to control our desires. But it isn’t easy. It sure as heck isn’t easy. And I am thankful that there ARE good girls left out there that can appreciate that fact and respect us for that.

  22. This girl’s heart is in the right place, but she’s trying to encourage a fire to go out by throwing gasoline on it. Everything she says about having purity as a goal is right, but she’s standing on the unholy ground of a sexually objectified view of women to make her point. She’s taken up the banner waved from pulpits that blame the lustful condition of men’s minds on the dress or undress of women, thus missing the target that God is aiming at: the heart.

    Woman’s bodies, bare or dressed, aren’t the problem and never were—I’m an L&D RN as well as a pastor, and I know whereof I speak. The problem is the highly reinforced, sexualized view of women’s bodies that we’ve been trained to have. We’ve grown up in a social and religious culture that equates bare skin and the contours of God-designed anatomy with sexual stimulation. The only cure for this is not to “bounce the eyes” at attractive bodies, but to stop this immature, irrational, ungodly way of seeing people, and start seeing them as the body’s Designer does.

    A pornographic concept of the body is the foundation for the success of pornography in every culture where that concept thrives. From the pulpit to the pew, every Christian man needs to repent of holding a sexualized view of the female body and of inculcating that lie into the minds of generation after generation of young men. Next, all believing men need to begin seeing through Christ’s eyes not just that each woman is a wholly-integrated, body-spirit human being, but that her fleshly anatomical frame embodies the image of her Maker, was fashioned to be His temple, and, in resurrection, is part of her eternal identity.

    Without a Creator-honoring, doctrinally correct, incarnational view of our gender-distinctive bodies and their anatomy, women will continue to be sex targets in men’s lustful, self-gratifying eyes. Maintaining a view that defines women’s bodies as sex objects will continue to confirm young men and older ones in the impure and degrading problems of lust, promiscuity and impurity that articles like this hope to fight. (I invite all who’ve commented favorably on the logic of this article to pray about what I’ve shared and, if you think I’m theologically off here, Google and study “A Dangerous Male MYTH: “Men are visual”.)

    1. David Hatton,
      This young woman said basically the same thing you said except in a more comprehendable way with a few statistics which was interesting to note. I don’t think you should’ve started out knocking her at all… only to elaborate in a more complicated version of what she was already saying. I only got thru half of what you wrote before I yawned. Sorry but true.

      1. You are correct. She did switch gears to decry our culture’s “sex”ploitation of women, but only after launching with several examples that confirm the cultural indoctrination that “boys” are victims of the alluring nature of the female body. Christian women ought lead the world in rejecting this deprecating paradigm and in calling for its eradication. Instead, intelligent secular females—fed up with being treated as sex objects—have taken the platform where believing sisters, empowered by true Christian theology, ought to be the loudest voices. (See the short TED talk for youth by Caroline Heldman: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kMS4VJKekW8 — it will not put you to sleep.)

  23. Very nice. I, myself am 19, college kid, and temptation follows me like a vulture. In the school and at work. Lust has been a struggle for me and still is every so often. This really inspired me to live a more godly life. Even though God is present and I love him whole heartily, there is room for improvement thank you so much.

  24. It is unfortunate that this article makes it sound like women, or worse, girls are responsible for keeping men & boys “pure.”
    How in the world does it make sense that a young woman apologize for her gender because young men get to see scantily clad flesh?!
    Where’s the article where the young men apologize for lusting after us? Where’s the article where men apologize for falling for advertising campaigns that degrade us?
    Have you never heard of supply and demand? Advertisers use sex because it sells. If men took responsibility for themselves & boycotted such advertisers and products, then those young naked models would have to find new jobs.
    Oh those poor young men who have to see these advertisements! OR… these poor young women who are only seen by these godly young fellows as sexual objects to boost sales.
    This article is coming out the wrong end.

    1. I see your point about supply and demand. But I don’t think that is the direction she was going. Yes, there is a huge market for porn and things just like it. But, as a male, reading this did not get me to think she was apologizing for all woman kind. She was apologizing for how the world portrays women. I have fallen into the abyss of seeing women that way, that they are some type of object that I can have. But through the grace and mercy of Jesus Christ, I have turned myself around. This was an article to help men like me to keep fighting an upward battle against the world. No longer do I see a woman like meat, but I try to show respect to all women, girls and children. And I appreciate how there are women out there knowing how hard it is for someone like me, who used to watch filth and would lust after a “hot” girl. No longer do I want to be that way. And I haven’t been for quite some time now, I can gladly say.

      But again, I do see your point. But that is not how I read her article. If she said sorry for all of women, then I would be right by your side. Men need to take care of their own thoughts. I have. Women do not need to apologize. But at the same time, there is nothing as attractive as a woman who treats their body sacredly.

      And that is all I have to say about that.

  25. I’m cool with you writing this article but I am so tired of seeing people blow numbers way out of proportion the porn industry make around 3 billion a year, which is still a lot of money. But Apple alone makes 33 billion a year, all I am saying is just be honest when you write an article if you don’t it robs you of any credibility and losses a large audiences attention.

  26. Thank you for this article. It has helped me a lot. As someone who truly struggles with things like this, I am so happy that there are even more people out there that understand what a struggle we have as well. Being “manly” isn’t about having sex and strutting around with several women on your mind. It’s about being respectful, devoted to God, loving, caring, and strong in the Gospel of Jesus Christ. If the rest of your posts are even half as inspired as this one, then that’s absolutely incredible. Thank you. The last part especially was truly special. I hope the women in this world know that there are men that are truly trying to purify themselves through Jesus Christ.

  27. Another annoying person complaining about the pitfalls of a capitalist society; we get it, sex sells and instant gratification can destroy what we hold dear. We’re obese, addicted to porn, material things, and invoking god isn’t going to make anything better. Education, humanism, and philosophy, however, will make everyone make better informed decisions about life. Enough with religious bullying! You don’t need god to be a better person.

    1. If anybody is “bullying” it is you. Telling someone to stop talking about what they believe in is exercising your freedom of speech but makes you look like the idiot. Why waste your time if it isn’t worth it to you? All you care about is belittling people and discouraging people to speak up for themselves. I applaud you for speaking up for yourself but would better appreciate it in your own blog as opposed to a belittling comment on someone else’s. No it doesn’t require God to be a good person, but let her make her decisions in her life based upon what she chooses and be happy for it. At least she tries to be good unlike 85% of the world. Let us make good choices together whether they are God believing or not. I won’t call you annoying because I respect your opinions but don’t appreciate them in this form.

    2. Who is religious bullying? You chose to read the article. And news flash: if you don’t see a connection with the rise of immorality and the rise of Godlessness, you’re kidding yourself.

    3. I find it interesting that you mention philosophy, most of whose most recognized contributors are Christian, or deists at the very least. Locke, Kierkegaard, Augustine, just to name a few of the giants within the realm of philosophy, studied heavily at secular universities.

  28. These words are clear and powerful and true. They tell me that there is a great reason to fight for the lord and to keep his commandments of him. They make me feel good and now I realize that I needed these words. After reading this article I am happy. Thank you so much much for these wonderful words.

    1. Hi Jonathan.
      I think that just because we like something it is not the the same as enjoying it. See liking something is more like being interested and drawn towards it. Enjoying is when you find fulfillment in it. When liking something involves lust it will kinda make your mind feel hazy vs, fulfilling and uplifting where your mind will feel more active and aware. I know with women one of the forms of porn we run into is not in picture form but in a written one. It’s sad because people tell you reading is great for you,(and it is) but still there are still so many books that are written porn. my point is it is hard to avoid, what with habits,people around you doing it, and even sometimes people making it seem like a good thing. Still if you chose to give up something you you may like for something you enjoy you can became a better stronger person. Someone who understands love vs, lust, and how sacrifice for there own well being. I wish I could tell you it stops being tempting (heck I only really have a hard time with books) but it will be worth it and It also makes life well happier because your not in that haze. I hope I made sense, good luck and remember God wants to help you overcome no mater where you are in life.

  29. Thanks for the apology but you can have it back. You understand why the world is full of so much destructive material? Because we, men, made it this way. The sex culture of today is solely based on male culture’s decision to embrace it. So that ks for the apology, but until men in this culture learn to rise above porn, porn has won.

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